What It Means to Be Between Lives

There are thresholds that do not announce themselves.

No trumpet, no funeral dirge. Just the hush between heartbeats, the breath you didn't realize you were holding.

This is where I find myself - between lives, between names, between stories that once claimed me. In this in-between state, we find ourselves in a realm of liminality. Here, the familiar and the unknown merge. It's a place where we can tap into our inner strength, break free from societal expectations, and create a path that truly reflects who we are.

To be between is not a pause. It is its own realm.

A haunting. A chrysalis. A velvet pergatory with the scent of jasmine and gunpowder.

And darling, to live here - truly live here - is an art. By embracing this state, we unlock the potential for self-discovery and empowerment. This allows us to navigate life's complexities with confidence and poise.

On Liminality: The Sacred Threshold

Liminality is the moment just before the spell breaks, when the world holds its breath. In the realm of liminality, we find ourselves suspended between what was and what is to come. This state is both disorienting and liberating.

It comes from limen, Latin for threshold, and it is not a destination, but a sacred between. A nowhere place. The veil-laced corridor between what was and what aches to be born. Here, we are betwixt and between, leaving the familiar behind and stepping into the unknown.

Here, nothing is fixed.

The soul floats - part ghost, part phoenix.

When you leave a job, but have not yet found your calling.

When a love ends, but your hands still remember its warmth.

When you outgrow your reflection, but the mirror hasn't caught up.

This is liminality.

Love Lost, Names Rewritten, Selves Shed

Relationship changes - divorce, death, desire fading like fog - are initiations. They strip us bare. We become mythic windows of our former selves. Thrust into liminal spaces, these changes challenge our perceptions of love, loss, and ourselves.

Career transitions? Just another phrase for shapeshifting. For sloughing off the armor that once served us, but now rusts with resentment.

And identity shifts?

Ah, the quiet violence of becoming.

When your bones whisper that you are no longer who you were... but not yet who you will be.

It is a death ritual with no grave, no eulogy. Only mirrors that don't recognize you yet.

The Liminal Life: Not Survival, but Sovereignty

To live liminally is not to be lost. To truly embrace the liminality lifestyle, we must first learn to shed outdated self-concepts that no longer serve us. This involves letting go of identities, beliefs, and behaviors that have become obsolete. It makes room for new growth.

It is to dance barefoot in the ashes, knowing the embers still glow.

We do not "reinvent" ourselves here.

We remember.

We cast off the cloaks of past selves - identities stitched for survival, not sovereignty.

We shed:

• Names we never chose.

• Scripts we were handed.

• Stories that once kept us warm, but now chafe the skin.

We make space for new hungers.

New spells.

New selves.

This process is a courageous act, requiring us to confront the parts of ourselves we've outgrown. As we release these outdated aspects, we unveil our true potential. We do this unencumbered by the weights of our past.

What to Do While the World is Rewritten

Some rites are not loud.

They are daily, whispered in candlelight and cracked coffee mugs.

Embracing transitions also means exploring new possibilities. It's about being open to the unknown, to new experiences, and to the potential that lies within every challenge.

• Be Mindful - let presence be your rebellion.

• Set loose goals - ones that can shapeshift as you do.

• Reflect deeply - journal, wander, pray, howl.

Let ambiguity be your companion, not your captor. Befriend it. Feed it poetry. Dance with it under the half-moon.

As we navigate these transitions, we realize the liminality lifestyle is not just about surviving change. It's about thriving within it. It's a journey that empowers us to redefine ourselves, to find new meaning, and to emerge stronger and more resilient.

To thrive in the in-between spaces, one must first learn to breathe in the ambiguity. Liminality is marked by uncertainty. It's in these moments that we face our deepest fears and desires.

Embracing this uncertainty is key. It means cultivating a mindset open to change. Viewing liminal spaces as opportunities for growth and transformation is essential.

The Spiral Forward

This is not a straight line. Transformation never is.

It is a spiral, a descent into the underworld and back again.

You will shed skins, bury names, resurrect selves you forgot were yours.

And each time you rise, you will be more you.

Wilder. Truer. A little more myth, a little less mask.

So do not rush the in-between. Don't beg it to end. Drink from it. Sing to it. Let it ruin you sweetly, and then make you divine.

Because this - this gorgeous ache, this liminal living - is not a detour. It is the way. The alter. The becoming.